I got a call yesterday from my nephew Adam. I was excited because he is coming to visit me to tell me some important news. Adam is an accountant and works in Dar es-Salaam. He is forty years old and is a bachelor.
In a country like Tanzania, being forty and not married or not even having children is rare.
When Adam arrived, I teased him as usual that he is getting old and still not married.
“It is not because I never wanted to get married, it’s because life in the city is expensive, especially if you have a big family to take care of,” Adam used to say. He went on to say that, with his salary, he would not possibly be able to build a house or give his future children the best education they deserve.
I cited an example of their neighbor, Mr. Masanja, in Tabora who had a big family and still managed to support his family.
Adam had argued that Masanja had enough cattle to sell and use the money to educate all his children, but still that was not the kind of life Adam wanted.